Hello to all my fellow parents of young actors! The new school year has begun, thus ending the ease of auditioning without the worry of missing school! But like all things, we parents get better with age!! Let’s set out to make the 2013 school year the best for our young actors. Let’s collectively focus on being positive, open and proactive. Let us remember that abundance and rejection are two of many facets that we experience in this business, and we should take neither of these things personally. Let us focus on the experiences and skills built by both our young actors AND by us parents. I am manifesting a beautiful acting experience for all actors: New, frustrated, seasoned etc. 2013-2014 IS OUR YEAR!!
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Commercial Mommy is how my friends describe me. In fact, it’s how I describe myself! I am a Los Angeles based mommy actress, juggling the demands of co-parenting three kids who are also successful actors in the Entertainment Business!
I know that I am not alone in this circus feat! I have been successful in helping my children create careers, remain accelerated in school and evolve into beautiful little humans. By sharing my journey, insight and strategies, I strive to be a fantastic resource, supportive friend and an inspiration to all of the other Commercial Mommies and Daddies in the biz!
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Child Actors and Unspoken Stress: The Perils of Focusing on One Family Member’s Career
Every day I wake up, knowing that I will be juggling mommy hood, woman hood, wife hood and business affairs. Like most families, we find a way to make it work. Adding the layer of being an actor and a mommy to working actors makes life…interesting, to say the least! What happens when our children exhibit signs of stress or exhaustion? How do we recognize these signs and what should we do about it?
I have always been a fan of having my children have casual conversations with trusted relatives. Auntie can ask, “How’s it going, balancing school and auditions?” and get a truthful answer. A child therapist can also assist. It never hurts to “check in” with your child, to see that they are driven by passion and not obligation.
As parents, we may not be aware of all of the pressures that child actors feel.
YES. They have scripts to memorize, often on short notice.
YES. They have to juggle school and acting.
YES. They may not be able to play on their school’s athletic teams.
But have you thought about the rest?
Are their earnings responsible for the family rent?
Do their career ambitions split up the family for months at a time?
Would they feel like a disappointment if they decided to stop acting?
Do they have to audition for parts that they are not comfortable with, just hoping for a paycheck?
Do they feel guilty about the attention they receive?
These situations are very real for many families, and right or wrong, they need to be addressed.
How have I addressed potential issues with my family?
- We are all based in Los Angeles and live together. Both my husband and I are self employed.
- We do not mix finances. The children know where their money is and when it is necessary to use it (PR, agent’s fees, etc.)
- They are not responsible for any family expenses, but ARE responsible for items that they desire that are outside of the family budget.
- We go out of the way to book out for vacations, to prove to them that we can have a NORMAL life.
- We discuss all auditions before they are confirmed. We have passed on MANY!
- We continuously involve them in new activities, not to increase acting opportunities, but to increase life experiences.
And finally, we are prepared for the day that they decide to change their desires…..as hard as it may be for us to accept, it is our obligation as a parents to LISTEN to our little actors…..our children.
What have you done to decrease stress for your child actor?